Yesterday, I posted on the notion of a sex pyramid as described in the August 2009 issue of Self Magazine. Today I'll explore in more detail one of the styles that can be incorporated into your individual levels of preference.
Intimate sex, as described in the article, is “a leisurely exploration of each other’s bodies that allows you to reestablish your bond, (and) may or may not include intercourse.” Intimate sex is primarily about connection and communication. You move slowly, discuss your likes and dislikes, explore together sensual and sexual connection, and fulfill your desire for closeness. With intimate sex, you remove the pressure for orgasm and focus instead on the desire for intimacy and passion. This type of sex may include intercourse, but the focus is more on affection rather than a dramatic outcome.
Tomorrow, adventurous sex…
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Monday, August 10, 2009
The Sex Pyramid
We've all heard of the food pyramid-the daily recommended allowances of food groups that keep you in optimal health. But what is a sex pyramid? Well, according to Self magazine, it's a model for “...integrating different types of sex into your regular routine..." and keeping things interesting.
So, how does the sex pyramid work? First, you establish what style of lovemaking you feel is the most satisfying and use that as your base. The next level would be something you thoroughly enjoy, but not as frequently. Above that would be a style that is fun, but only on occasion, and so forth. Each pyramid can be individualized according to preference and can be shared with your partner to create something that is satisfying for both parties.
Over the next week I will be posting on the six recommendations given by Self and how they can be incorporated into your own personal sex pyramid.
So, how does the sex pyramid work? First, you establish what style of lovemaking you feel is the most satisfying and use that as your base. The next level would be something you thoroughly enjoy, but not as frequently. Above that would be a style that is fun, but only on occasion, and so forth. Each pyramid can be individualized according to preference and can be shared with your partner to create something that is satisfying for both parties.
Over the next week I will be posting on the six recommendations given by Self and how they can be incorporated into your own personal sex pyramid.
Friday, August 7, 2009
After Sex
From queendom.com, here's a poll on what surveyed men and women do after sex:
Women Men
Cuddle: 38.71% 33.06%
Sleep: 17.27% 23.10%
Wash: 15.41 % 15.05%
Smoke: 10.50% 9.88%
Talk: 10.02% 9.40%
Eat or drink: 4.05% 5.17%
Watch TV: 4.0% 4.3%
Total Votes: 2095 1255
Women Men
Cuddle: 38.71% 33.06%
Sleep: 17.27% 23.10%
Wash: 15.41 % 15.05%
Smoke: 10.50% 9.88%
Talk: 10.02% 9.40%
Eat or drink: 4.05% 5.17%
Watch TV: 4.0% 4.3%
Total Votes: 2095 1255
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Sex Dreams
What do your sex dreams really mean? Dreams are a very powerful inroad to your subconscious, and although last night's steamy dream about Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie may just seem like a gift of your imagination, it's important to pay attention to what your brain may be trying to tell you.
Most people have erotic dreams from time to time, and understanding those dreams better may actually improve your real-life sexual experiences. While the science of dream interpretation can be unreliable, figuring out what your dreams symbolize can often help improve your life. Either through journaling or with the help of a therapist, you might be able to decode the real meaning of your subconscious. Sex dreams can symbolize sexual attraction, but they can also express feelings of insecurity, vitality, validation, adventure, and personal growth.
Bottom line, enjoy the tryst with Brad and/or Angelina, but take the time to analyze how that dream made you FEEL. It may provide important clues for understanding yourself as a sexual person.
Most people have erotic dreams from time to time, and understanding those dreams better may actually improve your real-life sexual experiences. While the science of dream interpretation can be unreliable, figuring out what your dreams symbolize can often help improve your life. Either through journaling or with the help of a therapist, you might be able to decode the real meaning of your subconscious. Sex dreams can symbolize sexual attraction, but they can also express feelings of insecurity, vitality, validation, adventure, and personal growth.
Bottom line, enjoy the tryst with Brad and/or Angelina, but take the time to analyze how that dream made you FEEL. It may provide important clues for understanding yourself as a sexual person.
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
Sleeping Naked
Does sleeping naked improve your sex life? Well, it seems that there is a large group of people (including myself) who believe that it does.
To explore the health and sexual benefits of sleeping naked, try visiting the website:
www.sleepnaked.org
To explore the health and sexual benefits of sleeping naked, try visiting the website:
www.sleepnaked.org
Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Sleep Apnea and Sexual Dysfunction
In a recent study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, a group of German researchers found that obstructive sleep apnea was directly related to erectile dysfunction. In the study, 69% of the men with sleep apnea also had erectile dysfunction, compared to the 34% of men without it. It seems that the loss of oxygen in the brain also negatively impacts sexual functioning.
If you are someone who struggles with excessive snoring and sexual dysfunction, you might want to consult a physician about addressing your sleep apnea. It could improve both your sleep and your sex life.
If you are someone who struggles with excessive snoring and sexual dysfunction, you might want to consult a physician about addressing your sleep apnea. It could improve both your sleep and your sex life.
Monday, August 3, 2009
Red Wine for Love
A friend sent me this piece in an email, and I thought it was interesting:
Female red wine drinkers have a stronger sex drive than those who prefer other drinks or don't drink at all. Italian researchers had women take the Female Sexual Function Index, a test used to asses sexual health, and found that moderate red wine drinkers scored consistently higher than teetotalers or those who prefer another alcoholic beverage. Scientists aren't exactly sure why this is, but one theory is that the antioxidants in red wine act to widen blood vessels, allowing more blood flow to "key" areas.
If you're a social drinker, you might want to try out the theory.
Female red wine drinkers have a stronger sex drive than those who prefer other drinks or don't drink at all. Italian researchers had women take the Female Sexual Function Index, a test used to asses sexual health, and found that moderate red wine drinkers scored consistently higher than teetotalers or those who prefer another alcoholic beverage. Scientists aren't exactly sure why this is, but one theory is that the antioxidants in red wine act to widen blood vessels, allowing more blood flow to "key" areas.
If you're a social drinker, you might want to try out the theory.
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