VEINS

No, not the varicose variety. VEINS stands for "very erotic noninsertive sex" and is recommended by Dr. Laura Berman for introducing more romance and intensity into sexual encounters. The key is being sexual without having intercourse. That might include massaging, kissing, stroking - the kinds of things you could do for hours as a teenager before you ever went "all the way". This kind of erotic sex play may lead to orgasm for one of you or both of you, but orgasm isn't the point.

When you get used to going through the same motions that always lead to intercourse, you can end up losing some of your creativity. By exploring other ways to be sexual, couples can increase their eroticism and intimacy - and possibly their interest.