No, I'm not going to describe exciting, guaranteed-to-bring-multiple-orgasms positions. The positions I'm talking about refer to low desire and high desire. Did you ever consider that these two positions are not limited to your sex life?
In Intimacy and Desire, David Schnarch says, "There is a low desire partner (LDP) and a high desire partner (HDP) on virtually every issue and decision in your relationship. One partner wants to do something that the other doesn't, or wants to do it less. Even if you and your partner both want the same thing, one of you will want it more. At every point of contention, high desire and low desire are positions partners take relative to each other. No one is the LDP or HDP on everything. Positions shift on different issues. You may be the HDP for sex, but your partner could be the HDP for intimacy."
What that means is that there is no 'correct' frequency of sexual encounters, and neither the HDP or the LDP needs to be defensive about their particular level of sexual desire.
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