USE Your Sexual Desire Problems

By now it should be clear that sexual desire differences - and the problems that flow from them - are inevitable in relationships. The key is what you do with them. The problems can actually be useful in the relationship if they are used productively.

David Schnarch suggests that desire problems push us to become more solid within ourselves.
He says, "How you feel about your partner, yourself, and your relationship is critical to robust desire. Enhancing desire requires more than breaking sexual routines. It involves intimacy, passion, eroticism, respecting yourself, and liking your partner - and being mature enough to be more capable of all these things."

So resolving differences in desire involves a lot more than simple compromises. It's about increasing intimacy. That's a lot more complex but infinitely more rewarding.